Living at home with a strict father really took a toll on me because at some point I couldn’t enjoy my family’s company anymore. It was the reason that I was relieved when I moved away for college, not knowing how it would feel like to completely on your own, in a new city where I didn’t know anybody and was all by myself all the time.
At first it was the homesickness that made me feel incredibly lonely, but as time went by, I realised that sometimes I do cherish the moments by myself and nowadays it is crucial for my mental health! I find time alone really valuable in a world where we’re all surrounded by people and responsibilities and the social expectations of you being a ball of network all the time! So this is why I, and maybe you, could benefit from a little time by yourself.
Your introverted gal needs to recharge!
Time alone allows me to recharge as, if you didn’t know yet, introverts draw energy from spending some time alone. There a days where I’m just unenergetic after a lot of socialising, especially with the wrong kind of people in the wrong kind of environments.
After those kinds of days I crave some time to hit refresh and refill my socialising battery. Of course this doesn’t mean I detest spending quality time with my friends and family. But sometimes it gets a bit excessive for the brain of mine and it collapses.
I use alone time to get back on track.
- I rearrange my desk
- I clean out my wardrobe and sort it out
- I clean my glasses and tech
- I clean my apartment
- I prep some meals
- I do a little writing
- I read a little before bed
- Ergo, feel much better and organised by the end of the day!
It lets me calm my busy, creative mind
I’m sure many of you can relate when I say I find it increasingly difficult to just enjoy a night in or a day out. As a trained journalist and general creative, I automatically direct most of my energies towards seeking the story or angle from whatever I do. Spending some time alone helps me to find a patch of calmness amongst the noise. True, I still find my brain whirs with fresh ideas when alone, but alone time helps me to channel those ideas into something productive. I love journalling my thoughts just to offload some of the frantic energy that bubbles when I’ve spent too much time around others.
It helps me to grow as a person.
Moving away from college, doing an internship by myself in London for 6 months… every experience pushing myself out of my comfort zone, being by myself, has been a challenge, but mostly a learning lesson! It shaped my mindset, it helped me learn who I am, whom I may become in the future and what my values are.
Indulge in the small activities that strike your personal fancy, regardless of what others might think. Go on that 5-hour long Netflix marathon. Do some work-out at home. Go window-shopping or treat yourself to some really nice food and desert! Unplug from your phone (or at least don’t check it so often) and indulge in what you know will make you feel good.
What do you do to unwind? Do you think alone time is important? Or can you not relate at all?